There are times when the birth announcement of a new baby is not well received. While an older sibling may be excited and thrilled at the prospect of a new brother or sister, younger siblings may display signs of jealousy or feelings of displacement. Preparing that child for the baby’s arrival could help to make the transition easier and smoother for everyone.

Preparing for Baby

There are many ways you can prepare your child for a new addition to the family. These tips are courtesy of The University of Michigan New Baby Study:

•            Tell your child about the new baby three to four months before giving birth. This way your tummy is showing and it will be easier for your child to imagine that a baby is in there. Telling a young child any sooner may cause your child unnecessary anxiety about the impending birth.

•            Let your child feel the kicks and movement baby makes inside your tummy.

•            Tell your child about how life will change once baby arrives. Be sure to assure her that you will love her just the same as you do now and that the new baby is not more important, but will require a lot of your attention.

•            Sign your child up for a sibling class where he can learn about babies and sharing mom and dad with a new brother or sister.

•            Let your child help decorate the nursery. Involve her in color, furniture and decorating decisions. Let her help shop for baby’s supplies, such as diapers, bottles, etc.

•            If you will be moving your child to a different bedroom to make room for baby, do so at least three months ahead of the birth. This will give him plenty of time to adjust to his new surroundings and won’t make him feel he has given up something because of the baby.

•            Make any changes in your child’s routine well in advance of the baby’s birth so that she does not feel overwhelmed once baby arrives.

•            Explain to your child what will happen when you go into labor. Where will he stay while you are in the hospital? If a friend or relative is coming to stay with your child while you are away, have them come stay for the night a week or two in advance.

•            Reflect on your older child’s first year of life by showing photographs of her at the hospital, getting her first bath, sitting in her high chair, etc.

When having the baby shower, small, age appropriate, personalized gifts for the siblings may be the trick to help smooth the way for that exciting day. A big sister might like an I’m the Big Sister Rhinestone Tee Shirt, or a book such as, The Super, Incredible Big Sister Personalized Children’s book may fit the bill. For the brother, a personalized Batter Up Baseball Picture Frame or his own Who loves me? Personalized Children’s Book. With these personalized gifts you can show your child how important they are to the process, while reassuring them that they will not be left out or forgotten once their new sibling arrives.